In the United States, Thanksgiving Day is fast approaching with Christmas already trying to "beat it out of the gate" as signs of trees, wreaths and lights already adorn retail shops and even several homes.
We are about to embark upon the season of the "grip, grin and graze". Yes, it's that time of year for family gatherings around a Thanksgiving meal quickly followed by Christmas parties, holiday happenings, big end of the year networking events, and holiday office parties.
It's a time for great connection and relationship building and it's also a time for great mistakes. Remember, whose throwing the party and do monitor your alcohol intake.
If you’re prepared, this time of the year is where you can shine. And, the keyword in that statement is preparation.
Being prepared for family
Chances are that family members really have no idea who you are and what you do. You are either Aunt Edna's little girl or cousin Cheryl's sister. And, often we're amazed when a family member or close friend knows someone who we wanted to meet, talk to, be connected with, interview, or associate with. Family members are often "brand advocates" and we never see them that way.
The same goes for co-workers. There was a woman who was gathering research and information on a company that she was about to embark on a project with. And, it wasn't until she began the project that she learned their own company receptionist knew the President of the company since high school.
Too often our discussions around the holiday table are of troubles and hardships we've experienced over the last year. And, top of mind, is the current challenge that we are facing. Why not use this time, not as a moment to wallow together in the pit of misery. Rather, to assist with connections, resources, or a provider that can be helpful to them. Spend the season honing your listening skills and you will be more than "so and so's daughter" in the minds of family.
What do you do about the office or business gatherings?
First, be the host.
No, I don't mean to host every gathering. What I mean is "act as if" you were the host by knowing important pieces of information like - where's the bathroom? Where are the drinks and the hors d'oeuvres? If you can answer those questions, as well as welcome people as they arrive and share the location of the drinks and food- you will be remembered, even in a large group of people.
Second, have a quick answer for “what do you do?”
It’s one of the most asked questions at any gathering and the one least listened to. It’s more of a courtesy ask then it is a true question. So, your answer needs to focus on one of your unique strengths, not a title, and you’ll stand out. Titles tend to box us into whatever that other person’s experience is with that title and we want to remove any barriers to connection especially those from preconceived perceptions. For me I would say, “I connect people online and offline.” The second part of that answer is to ask a question, “so what do you do” or “what do you enjoy doing?” It is a good thing to be seen as a good conversationalist or communicator. People value people who value them. And, the best way to do that is to listen.
Ask questions and listen. If they do most of the talking and you do most of the listening, then you will be considered a good conversationalist and they’ll even tell other people you are!
Third, you need to develop a good answer to “what’s up” or “how have you been doing.” This is the second most asked question and “winging it” usually leaves us saying something like “been busy”, “nothing much”, “good” or “can’t complain.” Spending the time to prepare this answer can make the difference between you being like everyone else, or you shining in your 15 seconds of fame! Think of something that you recently did or are doing that really highlights one of your brand attributes. For example, I would say “I just wrote an article for The Personal Branding Blog teaching people how to make profitable connections at holiday gatherings. And, what’s been happening with you?”
Being ready with a good answer that shines on your personal brand and then engaging another in conversation with a question is a great start to be visible at any gathering. Visibility is the first step to inspiring others to speak positively about you and garnering positive word of mouth!
Cross-posted on TheBuzz101
Author: Maria Elena Duron | chief buzz officer, speaker and coach focused on helping you move, touch and inspire others to action and speak positively on your behalf at buzz2bucks | word of mouth firm